2006-10-02T04:00:00.000-07:00

There is nothing of more value in a social environment than knowing how
to behave.What do you want from a specific situation? Do you want to be the leader of a group? Do you want to be able to seduce the girl you want in a group?

Armed with a lot of knowledge from the psychology,self development and seduction books that I read, I will do what very few people do every day:experiment everything that can be experimented on social interactions. Every one of us does it,it's just that it's unaware of what he's doing at that time.We have learnt social skills from observation and experiments and we are now locked on those types of behaviors that we repeat over and over again in any situation,even if this might not lead us to the result we want. It's time to change that. In every interaction, there will be a purpose in my mind,there will be a solid goal and I will play with different kinds of behaviors until I finally understand what gets me what I want.

The things on which I will put price on the next month will be:

1)I want to be a leader in every social situation. I will lead and support in every situation. Every conversation will go where I want ,when I want.I will not be interrupted while I speak.
2)I will be very attractive to girls. I want to be that good that,within 5 minutes from initiating contact ,she will ask for my phone number.
3)I will make every interaction enjoyable and I will enjoy myself while doing it. I go by the principle:"Life isn't meant to be easy, but it's meant to be fun".

Every day,I will post the review of the day. No one that has any contact with me will be spared.
I want to know what makes us ,humans, tick regarding our interactions.
I will also approach two girls or groups. There are studies that show that a relationship is established from the first few seconds of interaction. So, if you want to lead,it's very important that you lead from the first second.This can be changed later on,but it's done with a lot of effort and the other will not accept the change,they will resent the change. No one likes a sudden change in a person.When someone becomes unpredictable("it's out of the box"),it kinda freaks us out a bit.

This will be a lot of fun because every day I want to do at least one funny thing ,like sticking my tongue to complete strangers,on the street. I do all this for the sake of science (yeah right)

Game on!

1990-10-01T07:00:00.000-07:00

Interesting day in my quest.
In the morning , as I went to the college , I met at the elevator a girl from my block...my age...I initiated a bit of conversation in the elevator about her classes, ended up really fast,yet from the first moment she looked at me ,she smiled. That cute girly smile that really attracts men a lot.The smile that you know you're liked by her and she finds you attractive. As we had different path,we said goodbye in front of the block. I don't even know her name. It's really nice to start your experiments this way.It's because I was so relaxed and I didn't really care how it really went.
Ok....so the day started, I went to the class.I exchange some replies with one of my new collegues, asking her what is she reading about me in the newspaper. Then I tried to bring up some of my ideas into practice. It didn't really went that well. I tried to merge two groups from my class and get them aquainted. I encountered a lot of opposition from two of the guys. The teacher didn't came ,so we went out to decide where to go. There,another situation of decision. I pleeded for us going some place near ,a bar,and there were other oppinions. I blew it trying to convince them of my point. Instead ,I could have taken one on two that would have followed me and walk . Chances are they would follow.
This is what another group did and everyone followed. There is no vote in the human society. Even where there are decisions taken following a vote, there are leaders that tell their followers what to vote. The situation has always been like this, from the stone age until now. Humans are divided into leaders and followers.There is no other way.
So we went to the park that some chose. There ,each of us had a chance to present itself and me regaining a bit of leadership,after refusing to make room on the bench to a "member of the riot" (I'm exagerating a bit here ,but he will be punished :) ) After a few topics discussed ,there were this acqward moments of silence that no one likes. I'm really not sure how to eliminate these from a discussion. I am now reading and listening to some books about this topic and by tomorrow I am sure I will be better at leading the discussion.While in the park,I got bored and strayed a bit
from the group. I found two girls on a bench and I approached them :
"Hi. I can't stay too long ,I'm with some friends, but I noticed you and
I wanted to see you smile."
They smiled of surprise and then we talked about an article on my website
that described the various types of smile.They gave me some ideas.
It was a nice talk, I really didn't wanted anything but a pleasant chat and an escape from the
boredom that overwhelmed the group,in spite of my efforts.

When we returned to classes, the same boredom in the breaks. We really didn't have anything to talk to.I hate it when that happens. I gladly ended the day and drawed the conclusions:

When you say something,you say something interesting and in an interesting manner.

When you want something done ,you don't ask them. You say ,on an autoritative manner, what you want them to do. So ,no more "Should we leave?" ,it's now "Let's leave".

Social experiments